Love is a Decision more than a Feeling

Sometimes, Love starts out as Duty. Like when you meet your future in-laws. There's no escaping the relationship. Love is a decision, and not always a feeling. Feelings can be unreliable monitors of the future of a relationship, which by its nature, grows and develops with nurture. That's true of parent-child relationships as well. Now, about 'Choice'. Children can't choose their parents. We can't choose our date or place of birth, siblings, relatives, social class, IQ, race, anything. We come into the world like that. Without any choices at all. Is it fair? No, but that's the way things are. Even adults can't choose their co-workers, new neighbors etc. So killing an unborn baby shouldn't be done. It's not fair to give ourselves that power; the baby has none. The unplanned or even unwelcomed child can turn out to be the family's greatest joy when the parents decide to accept the duty of love. They will be repaid 1,000-fold.